NOTE: This is a repost of a piece I originally posted on Pillowfort, here.

Most of my research into asexual history is focused on the years 1950 to the mid 2000s right now, but I have found a few things that are older and decided to compile the following list of words/search terms, some of which led me to interesting finds, like these:

TW: medicalization of asexuality, outdated language, aphobia
NOTE: This is a repost of a piece I originally posted on Pillowfort, here.
I don't think sex is good or bad. I think of sex as the frosting on the cake. You can have it or not. If you have a good cake, you don't need frosting. And sometimes frosting overpowers a good cake or is used to cover up a bad one.

If you've spent any time in the asexual community, you'll probably be aware that cake references and food analogies are very common. Recently I discovered a cake analogy printed in a publication for a similar community, the celibate community of the 1980s. The quote above is taken from a book titled The New Celibacy by Gabrielle Brown, Ph.D, as printed in The Celibate Woman Journal volume 1, issue 1, July 1982. The Celibate Woman Journal was aimed at an audience of women whose community emerged from the 70s lesbian feminist community, and the journal was often advertised and discussed in lesbian newsletters/magazines/newspapers of the time.
 
While this analogy wasn't made by an asexual person, this community seemed to be aware of asexuality as something separate from celibacy, as you can see in this quote by another person interviewed for The New Celibacy:
 
I've always wanted to be more intimate in my relationships than the sexual kind of intimacy permits. The activity of sex does not seem to promote the kind of intimacy I am looking for. It's funny because I am actually very sexual, not at all asexual, but being celibate has given me a new way to investigate my feelings and to appreciate myself more. And my relations with men have deepened.... I have met some truly affectionate men who make me feel very womanly and nurtured and appreciated even without 'the reward' of sex. I love to touch and be touched and this has certainly not diminished but has become even more meaningful.

Note that she says she's "very sexual" and "not at all asexual", but has been celibate for a year for her own reasons. Given that she identifies as celibate, she can't be using "asexual" to refer to a lack of sexual activity on her part, since she says she isn't asexual. Asexuality is clearly understood to be something else.
 
If you've enjoyed this snippet of commentary, keep an eye out for the book I'm writing, titled Rewriting Asexual History. This is just one source out of hundreds I will be discussing. I plan to release the ebook for free download.
 
Citation:

Brown, Gabrielle. "The New Celibacy by Gabrielle Brown, Ph.D." The Celibate Woman, vol. 1, no. 1, 1982, p. 13+. Archives of Sexuality and Gender, link-gale-com.i.ezproxy.nypl.org/apps/doc/TOJXCJ885328355/AHSI?u=nypl&sid=bookmark-AHSI&xid=cec777d6. Accessed 11 July 2021.

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